Love
A Counterintuitive Way to Find Love
How Men Stop Looking for Love and Find Themselves First.
If you ask men about navigating the challenges of modern romance, they’ll often say dating is harder than ever, and with less certainty. With so many options literally at your fingertips, how can you truly know if the woman in front of you is the right one?
Making a romantic commitment is one of the most consequential decisions a man can make.
But how much time and energy have you been spending to prepare for success in love? Or is dating more like an unconscious activity with little forethought on how to achieve the best results?
Real stories and real questions.
As you consider your love life, here are stories from men who asked the same questions you may be asking:
“Our relationship started as a spring fling but quickly turned into something more serious. Looking back on our breakup, I failed to consider the long-term consequences of my romantic choice. As men, we’re responsible for the outcomes of our relationships, but it seems we’re not always equipped to evaluate these decisions rationally and thoughtfully.
How do I develop the skills necessary to assess the true costs and benefits of a romantic commitment?” — J.P.
“My 20-year marriage ended. I admit I haven’t paid much attention to myself — I’m out of shape, out of touch, and out of date. I’ve moved into a new home and don’t have a clue about making it a home. Honestly, dating feels like I’m about to be dropped off in a foreign country without a tour guide, local map, and travel advisories!
How do I start over, as I don’t even know where to begin?” — S.L.
“My beloved wife passed away. I’ve met women online and had several relationships, but I’m always the one who ends them. I get discouraged, pause my dating search, and then eventually go back online. I keep asking myself if I am unconsciously comparing the women I date to my later wife. Or am I being disloyal if I do find true love again. And am I afraid of experiencing another love loss?
How do I move beyond these limiting thoughts?” — R.W.
A niche is born.
As a personal development coach, I’ve carved out a niche working with men — after a breakup, divorce, or becoming widowed, informed by my own dating experiences.
I’ve observed firsthand how men lack a deep understanding of themselves — and of women in general. Many date with a “fire, aim, ready!” approach, and you can guess the results!
Enter the Self Syllabus.
Though a guided self-discovery framework of self-reflection exercises, science-based assessments, and one-on-one coaching— you’ll focus on you, rather looking for love.
By working through this holistic process, you can’t help but impact every area of your life, from family and personal relationships to career and leadership.
Take a dating sabbatical.
You’ll begin by deleting all dating apps and logging out of any active dating sites. No dating, introductions, or flirting whatsoever — no exceptions.
No more spending hours mindlessly viewing woman’s dating profiles. No more first dates that lead nowhere. No more dates that feel like job interviews. No more dating emotionally unstable women. No more dating without a risk-awareness strategy. No more dating looking at her hips instead of reading her lips!
As you work through the Self Syllabus, you’ll discover how to:
- Assess your well-being: mental, emotional, spiritual, and physical health
- Identify your purpose, needs, values, and self-limiting beliefs
- Increase your self-awareness and strengthen your emotional intelligence
- Transcend your personal history: trauma, habits, and patterns that have led to failed relationships
- Identify your attachment style to understand why you connect to certain women
You’ll also learn how to:
- Free yourself from emotional residue left over from past relationships
- Identify high-quality, high-functioning women
- Avoid the common mistakes that lead to disastrous relationships
- Recognize the “love cocktail” of infatuation — before it overwhelms you
- Reduce vulnerability to women who seem perfect for you, but aren’t
Going inward to do the work, may not be easy, as I’m guessing you already know. But this is exactly what it takes to attract women worthy of investing in, and worthy of your devotion.
Here’s what one Self Syllabus participant had to say:
“If you choose to work with Cindy, buckle up! She’s been by my side in both personal and professional development for years. I refer to her as my ‘bad-ass coach’ because she’ll be fiercely committed to your success and tell you what you NEED to hear, not just what you want to hear. I can’t imagine where I’d be without her guidance.” — T.P.
You control first impressions.
Visual identity — your outward appearance and how you carry yourself — has a profound influence on how women judge you, often in two seconds or less, as we often link how something looks on the outside with what is on the inside.
I offer expertise on your Outer Appearance (your “look” from head to shoes) and your Home Environment (your living space).
This isn’t about changing you to be someone else but making the most of who you already are.
Some men need a tweak or two. Others, a full makeover. You decide what you most want and need to improve, change, or modernize, and off we go!
Why take advice from me?
I’m passionate about helping men become their better self, expecting more from themselves, from their romantic relationships, and from the women they choose to partner with or marry. It’s in my DNA.
As a business owner, I intuitively apply risk assessment, ROI (return on investment), strategy, planning, vision, and principles of personal branding to dating and finding love.
As a woman, I share insider secrets on understanding how our brains differ from men’s, I know what women most want and need from a man, what men do wrong and right in relationships, and how to genuinely capture our hearts.
As a mom, I raised a son — now a grown adult — whose dad and I divorced amicably. I know what it’s like to rise from the ashes of failure. Broken engagements, dissolving marriages, and the despair of once again being single, were familiar to me.
Committed to changing my life, I embraced healing modalities from the scientific to the spiritual, and studied with top psychologists, couple’s therapists, and behavioral scientists.
That was a long time ago, yet all of these experiences have equipped me to help men understand and work through personal and relational issues non-judgmentally — as I’ve bravely and compassionately worked through my own.
What to expect.
By the end of this journey, I can’t guarantee you’ll find the love of your life — but if you do the work — you’ll have found a more grounded sense of self, having gained self-knowledge, greater confidence, and valuable insights — empowering you to form higher quality and more fulfilling relationship with yourself, with women, and with life itself.
If you’d like to learn more, I’d love to hear from you. I offer a complimentary conversation to answer any questions and share more of what the Self Syllabus entails. I can be reached here.
Every LOVE life is a kaleidoscope of possibilities!