One Saturday evening I was having dinner with a few female friends when our conversation turned to men and love (what else is new; we women are so predictable). One friend shared that her current relationship was ending. Her comment was: “Here I thought I had finally found the right man – and now, look where I am once again — with the wrong man!”
When my friend was sharing her dilemma of finding “the right man”, I recalled reading Neal Donald Walsch’s book, Conversations with God for Teens (at that time I was working with students and young professionals).
In Chapter 12, called Love, a girl named Cary, age l9, asked God the following question: “When are you (God) going to send me someone who will love me and see me for everything that I am (my quirks, flaws, etc?) – the way I look at everyone and appreciate them?
I have sent you someone, Cary. Me!
“Well you know, God, I appreciate that, but what I would also appreciate is another human being in my life to share days and evenings with me.”
I know that. I understand that. Now I’m going to tell you how to find that.
“Great!”
Simply be what you are looking for.
“Be what I am looking for?”
Yes. Instead of searching for someone to love, be someone who could be loved. Send what you wish to receive. Be what you wish to experience. This is the greatest secret in all of life.
Be what you are looking for, and what you are looking for will find you. Everyone is looking for the same thing. Do not, therefore, be the searcher. Rather, be that for which others are searching.
WOW! This concept is so simple, yet so powerful. This thought process could also apply to business.
Think about this: Sara, age 26, is a pharmaceutical rep and desires to attract the “ideal client”. She creates a list of desirable characteristics and then works on becoming what she is searching for. Sara conducts her business with integrity, honesty, forthrightness, listening skills, and so on – all attributes she wants to experience in a client. Like attracts like. It has worked for Sara, and it can work for you too.
Try this concept in your life. Have fun with it! I can tell you from personal experience – this really works!