Love
Helping Men Find and Maintain Lasting Relationships
As a personal development coach, I work with men in mid-life who want another chance at true love — finding happiness and harmony with the right woman after a divorce or love loss.
Yet a thriving intimate connection is never free. It takes hard work.
But maybe it’s time to stop looking for “the one” and find yourself first. To expect more from you, from your relationships, and from the women you bring into your life.
Real stories. Real questions.
As these men searched for answers, perhaps their questions have something in common with your own…
“My decades long marriage ended. I haven’t paid much attention to myself — I’m out of shape, out of touch, and out of date. I’ve moved into a new house and don’t know how to make it into a home. How do I even begin to start over?”
“Our relationship began as a spring fling but quickly turned into something more serious. Looking back on our breakup, I failed to consider the consequences of a romantic commitment. How do I examine the manner in which I choose relationships?”
“I met a woman where we connect on many different levels. But I’m self-aware enough to realize that I have relational residue leftover from a disastrous divorce. How do I not mess up what could be a lasting love story?”
“My wife passed away and I’ve been dating for several years. Yet, I keep asking if I’m comparing the women I meet to her, if I’m being disloyal if I find true love again, or if I’m afraid of going through another love loss. How do I let go?”
When you raise your standards, and know your inner workings and how to address your vulnerabilities — confidence, attraction, and appeal increase exponentially.
Enter the Self Syllabus.
This comprehensive Inner Self roadmap is a master class in self-discovery — it’s about your life, your purpose, and your well-being — your dating marketability, and how you shape your relationships with women.
It covers three key areas: Inner Work, Outer Appearance, and Prepare to Date.
1. Inner Work
This includes self-reflective exercises, focused practices, and science-based assessments. You’ll learn how to:
- Assess your mental, emotional, spiritual, and physical health
- Identify your needs, values, purpose, and self-limiting beliefs
- Gain insight on your behaviors, driving forces, and emotional intelligence
- Transcend destructive relationship patterns and habits
- Identify childhood or relational trauma and unhealthy boundaries
2. Outer Appearance
This covers your visual identity — your outward appearance, and how you carry, present, and communicate who you are, the value you offer, and how you want to be perceived. It isn’t about changing you to be someone else but making the most of who you already are.
It includes expertise on your “look” from head to shoes, and your Home Environment — your living space. Some men need a tweak or two. Others, a full makeover. You decide what you most want and need to work on and off we go!
3. Prepare to Date
This sets the groundwork for learning dating and relational skills, reducing the risk of making poor romantic decisions and choices, and maximizing the return on your time, attention, and monies expended. You’ll discover how to:
- Identify and manage your science-based attachment style
- Know what you’re really looking for in a life-time partnership
- Identify characteristics of high-quality, high-functioning women
- Detect red flags and love’s cocktail of infatuation before it overwhelms you
- Avoid the pitfalls of online dating
Why take advice from me?
I’ve experienced firsthand how many men lack a deeper understanding of themselves, of women, and how to date for the best results. They tend to wing it with a “fire, aim, ready” approach, and you can guess the results.
As a highly trained and experienced coach, I offer rigorously honest feedback on what I hear, observe, and question, as you share your life and relational history.
I share insider secrets on understanding how our brains differ from men’s, I know what women most want and need from a man, what men do wrong and right in relationships, and how to genuinely capture our hearts.
I know what it’s like to rise from the ashes of failure — divorce and the despair of once again being single, were familiar to me. I embraced healing from the scientific to the spiritual, and studied with psychologists, couple’s therapists, and authors skilled in relational development.
All of these experiences have equipped me to help men understand and work through personal issues non-judgmentally — as I’ve bravely and compassionately worked through my own.
Here’s what one participant had to say:
“If you choose to work with Cindy, buckle up! She’s been by my side in both personal and professional development for years. I refer to her as a ‘bad-ass coach’ because she’ll be fiercely committed to your success and tell you what you NEED to hear, not what you may want to hear. I can’t imagine where I’d be without her expertise, guidance, and unwavering support.” — T.P.
What to expect.
By the end of this journey, I can’t guarantee you’ll find the love of your life — but if you do the work — you’ll have found a more grounded sense of self, having gained self-knowledge, greater confidence, and valuable insights. You’ll find yourself attracting and choosing women who are right for you, and avoiding those who are not, as you manage the risks men often face when dating.
If you’d like to learn more, I’d love to hear from you. I offer a complimentary conversation to answer any questions you may have. I can be reached here.
Every LOVE life is a kaleidoscope of possibilities!